Katy Rose

This girl is funny. She doesn't mean to be. Some of the things she says..... I came around the corner the other to find her using a roll of tape to secure closed her Dad's Valentine's cards, when I asked her what she was doing she told me "my licker wasn't good enough." Last night we were laying in bed, and she announces to be that when she has her birthday party we can't invite one of the girls from her preschool class at school. When I asked why she told me it was because she has bad breath. I told Katy that is okay she can still be her friend and she could come to her party. Her reply.."aaah mom, I have a nose you know."

I thought I was having a real tender moment with her waiting in the pickup line at school. She was singing I AM CHILD OF GOD, very sweetly and sincere, just as my eyes were welling up she finishes the song and then breaks out into Elvis' Hunka Hunka Burning Love. Yes, in addition to the Primary Song CD for church we have been listening to the sound track from Lilo and Stitch. Katy and Stitch are very similar in some ways. Our family would be boring without her that's for sure.

I AM LOVED

I couldn't write about this last week when it happened, it was too emotional for me. As you all know how I freaked out after getting the information packet from LaVida, during this time I literally cried out unto our Heavenly Father (on my knees, sobbing, very much with no self control, saying just what came to my mind, a true pouring out of my heart and lacking reverence that my prayers usually have) "I asked Him how come He couldn't just send someone to me with a baby that needed a mom, how come no body could see me for the good mom that I am and want me to raise their child as mine, could He please just send a baby to me." After I had prayed that I felt guilty, I felt like I had just ask to win the lottery or asked for something impossible. I even asked for forgiveness for that prayer. That was on Tuesday, Feb. 4th. This is how our Heavenly Father responded..... I got a phone call on Monday, Feb. 11 from one of my dearest friends, we have been girlfriends now for about 25 years. Her mom was talking to her father's stepmother(that is a very complicated family tree so hang with me). Apparently her granddaughter who is about 20 is pregnant. This young woman has 2 children already that the state of Florida has terminated her parental rights with that her mom is raising. She asked her mom if she would take this child and her mom said no, she just couldn't. She knows that if she tries to keep this baby the state will take it also. She doesn't want to have an abortion. My friend's mom knowing we would like to adopt told the pregnant girls grandma about my family. The grandma talked with the pregnant girls mom and before they aproached her wanted to know if I was interested. So, my friend called me and asked if I was interested in adopting this baby. I cried and cried and cried, I couldn't talk. I am not sure what is going to happen from here, of course I said yes after all it was what I asked Heavenly Father for. My emotions were not from the idea of this could be my next child but I have a Heavenly Father who knows me, loves me, realized my heart was breaking and reach down to let me know He is there, He is listening no matter how impossible the prayer might seem to me, He let me know everything is possible through Him. I don't know if they have talked to the pregnant girl yet or not. What I took from that experience was my Heavenly Father's love, and at the time that is what I needed to know.

Having children has always been an ordeal, a trial, and huge test of faith for me. I thought adopting would be different, would go different emotionally but I am having such a hard time with it and honestly I not sure I am strong enough. I just don't know how everything is going to work from here. I am having the hardest time with knowing His will as opposed to mine, that is why I haven't completely thrown in the towel. I know I might look strong on the outside, but the inside it is all mush!!

Freaked OUT!

Okay, I am not sure myself what happen, but I can tell you I totally Freak Out Tuesday night after sitting down to read the information packet sent from our adoption agency. Called my good friend(who adopted couple years ago from China) on the verge of hysterical crying asking her what did I do! Every reason why we should not do this came to mind, I even emailed our agency asking if we didn't proceed at this point would we get our money back! Spent most of the week an emotional wreck, crying for most of it. Oh, and fighting off panic attacks. Really wondering what have I gotten my family into. Floating through my thoughts were more reasons why not to adopt than there were to proceed. Well she talked me off the ledge and gave me some very sound advice, come to find out it was the same advice I gave her when she was deciding to go to nursing school, pray about it. Pretty simple huh? Well I have to admit that I haven't had the frame of mind to listen for an answer when I have prayed. So, I needed to change focus and proceed with caution. I needed first to seek for inner peace, I started just to ask for comfort and peace, I decided to take on the Hinckley Challenge and read the Book of Mormon in 97 days in remembrance of our Beloved Prophet who just passed away recently, during this time I plan to read it for nourishment for my soul and focus on those scriptures that really testify of the love Jesus Christ has for each of us. Today I also asked for a blessing from our home teacher. With all these things I hope to place my heart in the right place so when I shall seek these answers that I will have an unshakeable testimony that I am following the Lords will and not mine. I feel as if I am standing at a fork in the road with the two directions to take and knowing each one is life altering, knowing either way is okay to take, but not knowing which one our Heavenly Father wants our family journey down. So I am going to take some time and figure out which one is for us, that way the next bump in the road we hit I will know it is just part of the journey and not a road block.

I am still afraid to look into the information packet again, it is a very intimidating pack of paper work. I am thinking of having someone come and seperate it out and put them in seperate envelopes so I don't freak out! They could put them in order in which to accomplish!! That way I would never have to look at them all at once again.

My New Weight Loss Plan

One of my favorite lines from a movie comes from The Devil Wears Prada, it is where the skinny receptionist says, "I am one stomach flu away from my goal weight." Well having the stomach virus twice in almost one week, I have decided that it is my new weight loss plan. I must say that this one makes WW points system seem like a piece of cake!! I first came down with it a week ago last Thursday and since then the entire family has gotten it! And Friday night/early Saturday morning it returned back to me! Hows does that happen? I literally thought I was safe since I was the one who introduced it to the family. The funny thing is was that because of the anticipation I had built up over LaVida accepting us or not, and being some what of an emotional cookie eater, I had made cookies about 3 out of 5 days and thought to myself that this would be a better week to have gotten the stomach virus to undue all the damage. Well next time I will becareful of what I wish/think of as new remedie for weight loss.

WOOO HOOOO!

I opened an email last night that contained the words, "it appears from your application that you meet Colombia's specifications for the adoption process." Words can't explain how excited I was to read that sentence I just started crying, my son came out and wanted to know if they were happy or sad tears. Happy happy happy tears! Malcolm is equally excited however now he realizes that he has some work to do!(if you are wondering what work, refer back to the home study post and that should clarify) However he did get started last night, working in the basement.

So what happens next? We will be getting an informational package in the mail and it should arrive next week. It will break everything down into steps that we should accomplish and in what time frames. LaVida will hold our hands through this whole process!